Pushing people to give in their best

Continuing with lead the brain discuss http://hunt-for-motivation.blogspot.com/2011/01/lead-brain.html  below is a summary of a book that throws light on how can we help people around us build a habit of  "leading their brain out of adversity"

 

MindSet  (Summary of a book by Carol S. Dweck)!

Don’t divide the world into week and strong, success or failures…. But divide the world into learners and non-learners.

There are two types of Mindsets

1.      Fixed mindset.  Where an individual believes that his/her qualities are carved in stone. They have a specific amount of intelligence, personality and moral character. And they have to prove this over and over again, because they feel every situation is evaluated. And they have to ensure that they deliver on their personal belief of the amount of intelligence, personality and character they have. These people end up blaming the "3rd Person" for any adversity or challenge in their life. Hence are stalled in their feet when stretched.

2.      Growth mindset.  Here an individual believes that his/her qualities can be cultivated through efforts. Although, initially, people may differ in every which way – in their initial talents and aptitudes. But everyone can change and grow through application and experience. This creates a passion for learning and stretching  themselves. People in growth mindset, thrive on challenge as the bigger the challenge, the more they can stretch and learn. In growth mindset, failures don’t define you, but it is considered t be a problem that has to be dealt with and learned from.

How to Develop Growth Mind Set in Others. It can be developed at any age

1.      Send development messages. Every word and action sends a message. It tells children or students or peers or athletes – how to think about themselves. It can be a fixed mindset message that says: you have a permanent trait and I am judging it. Or it can be a growth mindset message that says: you are a developing person and I am interested in your development.

2.      Don’t stereotype or label people. Praising people for their effort as well as the result. This will help people find success via learning and improving. If you start labeling people, they move towards fixed mindset and hence do not admit and correct their deficiencies. A student mentioned that I am always praised for my intelligence rather than my efforts, and slowly buy surely I developed an aversion to difficult challenge.

3.      Inculcate True self confidence via pushing them towards learning mode i.e. the courage to be open – to welcome change and new ideas.  This will help in making people ready to grow.  To grow true self confidence, we should focus on praising the work that they have put in i.e.  That homework was so long and involved. I really admire the way you concentrated and finished it.  Focus on inculcating that skills and achievement come through commitment and effort.

4.      Push people towards Observe, Learn and Improve Set high standards for people around you and keep raising the bar. Focus on telling them that “you have to apply yourself each day to become a little better. By applying yourself to the task of becoming a little better each and every day over a period of time, you will become a lot better”

Gist being

“Did I win? Did I lose? These are wrong question. The correct question is: did I make my best effort? If yes that you may be outscored,  but you will never lose”

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Lead the Brain

Lead the Brain

First say to yourself what you would be;
and then do what you have to do

On 26^th January, Jeddah had unprecedented rain that led to breaking of a few smaller dams leading to flooding on the roads. Some major roads were flooded, that led to extraordinary personal or business loss in terms of cars getting totaled to people spending umpteenth hours walking on the flooded streets to the shop mechanizes wasted.  


Following the social media, in such a situation, made me realize that there are “generally” two groups of people  (a) Who are sharing sad pictures of the city and blaming the issue to somebody and (b) People who have moved forward and are now helping in rehabilitation.
What I have come to conclude is that it all boils down to the “Mind-Set” that lead us to react differently to the same situation. It all boils down to how we “lead our brain”


To elaborate:


Brain in my opinion, responds to the questions we ask it. If we tell our brain we are in a disaster due to this rain, the brain will reply, yes you are doomed, and now xyz bad things will happen to you. However, if you had asked your brain, that how can I make best use of this circumstances due to rain. The brain will start thinking towards finding a solution.  All in all, we have to lead our brain and ask the right question.


Lets do an exercise, look at any object around you and tell your brain, this object is blowing up. I am sure that most of you would have visualized the object blowing up and you getting hurt. Now, if you look at the same object and tell your brain that look how beautiful this object is. Most probably, your brain would have shown you aspects of this beauty.


Lead your brain, rather than being led by it.


Whenever in distress, People with positive “mind set” ask the question of “what is the solution of this problem” rather than people who have a negative mindset who keep telling themselves that things are bad and their brain keeps reinforcing this. And this is the difference we see on the road, some people are working on their cars to get them running again (positive mind set), while the others are sitting besides their cars with both their hands on the head (negative mind set). It will not help in blaming others or in reinforcing the negative feeling. Rather it would help, if we ask the brain, how can we get out of this situation….


Lead your brain, rather than being led by it.

Success Begins With Personal Development And Ends With Goal Attainment

Jeddah Rain 26th Jan 11

26th January 2011

Water on Andalus Street (inbetween arafat street and tahlia).  The amazing observation was that people were stuck for hours at end, but they did not lose their cool and enjoyed.

And now the area of Bariman. Location in between hira st and Panda bariman on Amir Mitb road

I hope every body in jeddah reached home safely. Also, i was amazed to see females walking into tahlia mall to shop while the roads outside were flooded. Kudos to their focus and motivation to shop.

Efforts and courage are not enough without purpose and direction

These days we are discussing the 9 tactics that lead to self / others motivation. The nine tactics being (1) Recognition, (2) Trust, (3) Challenge, (4) Direction and Communication, (5) Opportunity, (6) Personal Stake, (7) Freedom of Choice, (8) Incentive and (9) Association with a team or group.

We have discussed recognition, and how it is used to tame killer whales  http://hunt-for-motivation.blogspot.com/2011/01/rrecognition-can-tame-killer-whale-why.html

And Trust and the behaviors that help build trust http://hunt-for-motivation.blogspot.com/2011/01/people-respond-to-trust-by-upholding-it.html

And Challenge http://hunt-for-motivation.blogspot.com/2011/01/life-challenges-help-us-discover.html 

Todays focus will be role of  Direction and Communication in motivating self and others

As humans we don’t want to move out of our comfort zone, hence a comprehensive direction will make us feel in control and motivate us to move forward. Everyday we face a lot of challenges, that throw our focus around and at times break our heart and resolve. However, if we are sure of our direction/goals, we will continue to move as Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goal and if we lose focus we should remind ourselves that we are kept from our goals not by obstacles but by a clear direction forward.

Jim Collins in his book “Builds to last” mentions that  companies that outlasted different generations, economic up and down trends, wars etc were driven via sense of purpose beyond just money, and this sense of continuity of purpose acted as a bond that held the organization together and focused in the face of change.

A strong sense of Direction helps us become architect of future rather than victims.

Communication helps as a feedback loop for us and the whole team, it is used to comfort us in adverse times, pep us up during challenges, direct others who are losing focus and so on.

Good communication is as stimulating as a strong black coffee, and just as hard to sleep after

Please feel free to add...... or visit the full blog at  http://hunt-for-motivation.blogspot.com/

Now.....Go on confidently in the “direction” of your dream, live the life you have imagined.   No wonder, people live a year very happily if they stick to their resolution and direction.

Life challenges help us discover ourselves

Challenges help us discover ourselves

These days we are discussing the 9 tactics that lead to self / others motivation. The nine tactics being (1) Recognition, (2) Trust, (3) Challenge, (4) Direction and Communication, (5) Opportunity, (6) Personal Stake, (7) Freedom of Choice, (8) Incentive and (9) Association with a team or group.


We have already talked about Trust http://hunt-for-motivation.blogspot.com/2011/01/people-respond-to-trust-by-upholding-it.html

And recognition, and how it is used to tame killer whales http://hunt-for-motivation.blogspot.com/2011/01/rrecognition-can-tame-killer-whale-why.html .



Today lets think  “Challenge” i.e. asking people to do, what they have not done before. Word it right and watch them reach their zenith. Its is proven that people thrive at tasks that are at or just beyond their skill level.  If you word it wrong, people might get de motivated see the video below as example of both instances and choose for yourself.  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EnvjaaeVBxo&feature=player_embedded

While thinking about distributing responsibilities to your team. Dont think of giving it to people who have already done such a work before. Think of an old OAK Tree, because the strongest oak tree of the forest is not the one that is protected from the strom and hidden from the sun. It is the one that stands in the open where it is compelled to struggle for its existence against the winds and raind and the sun.


We will continue to grow if we think that life's challenges are not suppose to paralyze us, they are their to help us discover who we are.

For inspiration, please see the  below vidoe.,,, http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LoSdCCt4Ljs

People respond to trust by upholding it. Trust is a motivator

During the next few days we will discuss the 9 tactics that lead to self / others motivation. The nine tactics being (1) Recognition, (2) Trust, (3) Challenge, (4) Direction and Communication, (5) Opportunity, (6) Personal Stake, (7) Freedom of Choice, (8) Incentive and (9) Association with a team or group.

Yesterday we talked about Recognition, and how it is used to tame killer whales http://hunt-for-motivation.blogspot.com/2011/01/rrecognition-can-tame-killer-whale-why.html .

Today lets think  “Trust”

It takes years to build up trust, and it only takes suspicion, not proof, to destroy it
Trust is one of the most powerful forums of motivation and inspiration. People want to be trusted and they respond to trust by trying to uphold it. Nothing is as fast as the speed of Trust.

Below is a small summary of a book I read over the past few days titled “The Speed of Trust”. Simply put Trust means confidence. The opposite of trust – Distrust- is suspicion. The moment there is suspicion about a person’s motives, everything he/she does becomes tainted. That is the moment when people automatically start discounting everything you say by 20/30 % or even more. We are living in a very fast paced and changing world. As you go to work or home or somewhere else, your top responsibility should be to build trust.

Trust is a function of two things: character and competence. Character includes your integrity, your motive as perceived by others, your intent as perceived by people. Competence includes your capabilities, your skills, your results, and your track record. Competence is situation: it depends on what the circumstance requires.

There are 13 behaviors that can help you build trust with anybody. All the 13 behaviors require a combination of both character and competence. The first five flow initially from character, the second five from competence and the last three from an almost equal mix of character and competence.

Behavior # 1 – Talk Straight i.e. be honest, tell the truth. Let people know where you stand. Don’t manipulate people or distort facts and hence don’t leave a false impression.

Behavior # 2 – Demonstrate Respect i.e. genuinely care for others. Show you care. Treat people as human beings, if they know you care, it brings out the best in them. Respect the dignity of every person and every role. Treat everyone with respect, especially those who can’t do anything for you. Each contribution needs to be honored and respected no matter how small a contribution is to an activity or an effort. Show kindness in the little things. Don’t fake caring.

Behavior # 3 – Create Transparency i.e. Tell the truth in a way people can verify. Get real and genuine. Be open and authentic. Operate on the premise of “What you see is what you get. “ Don’t have hidden agendas, don’t hide information.

Behavior # 4 – Right Wrongs i.e. More than simply apologizing, make restitution. Its doing what you can to correct the mistake and then a little more. Make things right when you are wrong. Apologize quickly. Demonstrate personal humility. Don’t cover things up. Don’t let pride get in the way of doing the right thing.

Behavior # 5 – Show Loyalty i.e. give credit freely. Acknowledge the contributions of others. Speak about people as if they were present. Represent others who aren’t there to speak for themselves. Don’t bad mouth others behind their backs. Don’t disclose others private information.

Behavior # 6 – Deliver Results i.e. Get the right thing done. Make things happen. Accomplish what you are hired to do. Don’t over promise and under deliver. Don’t make excuses for not delivering. Results give you instant credibility and instant trust. They give you clout. They clearly demonstrate that you add value that you can contribute, that you can perform.

Behavior # 7 – Get Better i.e. continuously improve. Increase your capabilities. Be a constant learner. Develop feedback systems both formal and informal. Act on the feedback you receive. Than people for feedback. Don’t consider yourself above feedback. Don’t assume today’s knowledge and skills will be sufficient for tomorrow’s challenges.

Behavior # 8 – Confront Reality i.e. take the tough issues head on. Its about sharing the bad news as well as the good, Don’t bury your head in the sand.

Behavior # 9– Clarify Expectations i.e. Remember all conflict is a result of violated expectations. Clarifying expectations is all about creating shared vision and agreement about what is to be done up front. You can also call it behavior of prevention by disclosing and revealing expectations, discussing them, validating them, Renegotiating them if needed and possible. Never assume that expectations are clear or shared.

Behavior # 10 – Practice Accountability i.e. Take responsibility for results. Be clear on how you will communicate how you are doing and how others are doing. Don’t avoid or shirk responsibility. Don’t blame others or point fingers when things go wrong.

Behavior # 11 – Listen First i.e. Listen before you speak. Understand. Diagnose. Listen with your ears and your eyes and heart. Don’t presume you have the entire answers o all the questions.

Behavior # 12 – Keep Commitments i.e. Say what you are going to do, then do what you say you are going to do. Make commitments carefully and keep them. Make keeping commitments the symbol of your honor. Don’t break confidences. Don’t attempt to PR your way out of commitment you have broken.

Behavior # 13 – Extent Trust i.e. Demonstrate a propensity to trust. Extend trust abundantly to those who have earned your trust. Extend trust conditionally to those who are earning your trust. Learn how to appropriately extend trust to others based on the situation, risk, and credibility of the people involved. While Behavior 1 to 12 help you become a more trusted person, this behavior will help you become a more trusting leader. Not only des it build trust, it leverages trust. It creates reciprocity, when you trust people, other people tent to trust you in return.

Please feel free to add...... or visit the full blog at http://hunt-for-motivation.blogspot.com/

 

Rrecognition can tame a killer whale, why not humans

There are two things people want more than money and power……. Recognition and Praise.


During the next nine working days we will discuss the 9 tactics that lead to self / others motivation. The nine tactics being (1) Recognition, (2) Trust, (3) Challenge, (4) Direction and Communication, (5) Opportunity, (6) Personal Stake, (7) Freedom of Choice, (8) Incentive and (9) Association with a team or group.  http://hunt-for-motivation.blogspot.com/2011/01/motivating-others-driving-others.html 


Starting with Recognition i.e. Acknowledging people on all the good they have done, motivates them to repeat the same.


Some of us have visited the Sea world in Orlando etc, but none of us have ever thought about how are these Killer Whales trained. Yes these are Killer whales, who are doing a show infront of you. They are caught from the sea and then trained to be tame. HOW can a human train a Killer whale, suppress their instincts?


“Whale Done” a book written by Ken Blanchard (One minute manager fame), highlights how these huge killer whales (most feared predators in the ocean) are tamed to perform amazing acrobatic leaps. The trainers basically (a) accentuate the positive and (b) redirect the negative behavior. Gist being, that the trainers focus on

Recognition i.e. Whale Done i.e. Catch people doing the right things and in return the people get motivated to repeat the same over an over again.






To learn more visit http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qbQvrwjT7yo&feature=related

Please feel free to comment / suggest / feedback.... 


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"First Break all the Rules" and 5As

Individual commitment to a group effort -- that is what makes a team work, a company work, a society work, a civilization work

Below is a summary of a book “First Break all the rules”. This book is based on learning of research from 80,000 managers across different industries. The gist being:  that companies that got positive responses from their employees on the below 12 question were more profitable, more productive, had low employee turn over and had highly satisfied internal / external customers. 

1. Do I know what is expected of me at work?
2. Do I have the materials and equipment I need to do my work right?
3. At work, do I have the opportunity to do what I do best everyday?
4. In the last seven days, have I received recognition or praise for doing good work?
5. Does my supervisor or someone at work seem to care about me as a person?
6. Is there someone at work who encourages my development?
7. At work, do my opinions seem to count?
8. Does the mission/purpose of my company make me feel my job is important?
9. Are my co-workers committed to doing quality work?
10. Do I have a best friend at work?
11. In the last six months, has someone at work talked to me about my progress?
12. This last year, have I had the opportunity at work to learn and grow?

Linking the above questions with 5As of Motivation discussed two days ago http://hunt-for-motivation.blogspot.com/2011/01/motivation-drive-towards-doing.html

1) Appreciation (recognition, acknowledgement, respect etc)

§         In the last seven days, have I received recognition or praise for doing good work?

2) Authority (Power, influence, control etc )

§         Do I have the materials and equipment I need to do my work right?

§         At work, do I have the opportunity to do what I do best everyday?

§         At work, do my opinions seem to count?

3) Avoiding Pain “internal to self” ( Internal sense of duty, Philanthropy, accountability, freedom of choice etc)

§         Do I know what is expected of me at work?

4) Affluence (Wealth, prosperity, income etc) 

§         Is there someone at work who encourages my development?

§         In the last six months, has someone at work talked to me about my progress?

§         This last year, have I had the opportunity at work to learn and grow?

5) Association (Being part of a group etc) 

§         Does my supervisor or someone at work seem to care about me as a person?

§         Does the mission/purpose of my company make me feel my job is important?

§         Are my co-workers committed to doing quality work?

§         Do I have a best friend at work?

Feel Free to add……   

Motivating Others = Driving others towards higher achievement.

We excel in life as a group,  individually we are one drop, but together we are an ocean.....


Motivating Others = Driving others towards higher achievement.

Yesterday we discussed the 5A model for motivation (http://hunt-for-motivation.blogspot.com/2011/01/motivation-drive-towards-doing.html) today lets talk about the 9 Tactics that can help motivate people around us  and how they fit into the 5A's 

1) Appreciation (recognition, acknowledgement, respect etc)

a.   Recognition–  Acknowledging people on all the good they have done, motivate them to repeat the same.

b.   Trust  - Show faith in people and they will move mountains to maintain your faith in them.

c.   Challenge  - Ask people to do, what no body has done before. Word it right, and watch them reach their zenith

2) Authority (Power, influence, control etc )

a.    Direction and Communication –  As humans we don’t want to move out of our comfort zone, hence a comprehensive direction will make us feel in control and move us forward.

b.   Growth Opportunity – We want to move up the ladder, show us the opportunity to advance and then see how we beat your expectations.

3) Avoiding Pain “internal to self” ( Internal sense of duty, Philanthropy, accountability, freedom of choice, Personal Challenge etc)

a.   Pleasure or Consequences or Personal stake –  Pleasurable rewards move people, I personally don’t believe in  threats, at it brings a sour flavor in the relationship.  Let people do, because they want to do it, rather than they want to avoid pain. As humans, we have two ways to deal with one another: Reason or force. Every human interaction falls into one of those two categories, without exception. In a truly moral and civilized society, people exclusively interact through persuation. Force should be the last resort in social interaction, as force leads to injustice that leads to most of the ills in society.

b.   Freedom of choice and deadlines – People with high internal accountability, work the best against a deadline that they have set for themselves. Also these people generally work best on their own ideas (freedom of choice)

4) Affluence (Wealth, prosperity, income etc) 

a. Incentives – J

5) Association (Being part of a group etc) 

a. Team – Camaraderie help bring the best out of people.

Please feel free to add any other tactic that i may have missed  

Motivation = Drive towards doing something

Life isn't about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself. It does not matter where you have been, what matters is where you are going, what are you becoming.....

Motivation = Drive towards doing something.

Today lets look at the “Whys” behind motivation i.e. “why do we do the things we do?” or “Why we make a certain decision?” or “Why are we driven towards a certain direction?”

To answer the “Why” lets look at what motivates an average human?  I call it the 5A of Motivation

Appreciation (recognition, acknowledgement, respect etc)

Authority or Achievement (Power, influence, control etc )

Avoiding Pain “internal to self” ( Internal sense of duty, Philanthropy, accountability, freedom of choice etc)

Affluence  (Wealth, prosperity, income etc) 

Association (Part of a group etc) 

Depending on the day, mood, historical perspective, we give higher weight to one of the above “A” and make a decision that leads us towards it.

Please feel free to add…..

Time and Focus are zero sum quantities. Spend them on things that matter...

Time has more value than money. You can get more money, but you cannot get more time

People generally ask me how can they better utilize their time, they are asking for a tool or an organizer that can help them better manage their time. Some friends of mine even went ahead to buy expensive smart phones that had great organizing abilities, but still they complain of lack of time.

I always tell my friends, before they go and use a tool, they have to be sure of what they want in life. My philosophy of time management is

“ Time spent towards an objective is time well spent, everything else is wasted”

To explain, if your objective for the day is to relax by watching TV, then all the time you spent watching TV and relaxing was time well spent. However, the time you spent in responding to official emails was waste of time, given that it was not part of the objective.

So take a day off, think on “Who you want to become, where do you want to reach” and then jot down all the steps required to reach those goals.  All the time you spent marching towards your goal will be time well spent. Daily analysis of where you spent your time, will help  in prioritizing.

Take a day off and think…… who you want to become and where you want to reach……. share with us also so that we also get motivated  J  

  

Jeddah Rain (14/1/11)

Some images of roads in Jeddah after the rain. Great thing to note is that people continued with their life. Water on the roads did not stop them from achieving their daily objectives.

Speed of Trust

It takes years to build up trust, and it only takes suspicion, not proof, to destroy it


Below is a small summary of a book I read over the past few days titled “The Speed of Trust”. Simply put Trust means confidence. The opposite of trust – Distrust- is suspicion. The moment there is suspicion about a person’s motives, everything he/she does becomes tainted. That is the moment when people automatically start discounting everything you say by 20/30 % or even more. We are living in a very fast paced and changing world. As you go to work or home or somewhere else, your top responsibility should be to build trust.

Trust is one of the most powerful forums of motivation and inspiration. People want to be trusted and they respond to trust by trying to uphold it. Nothing is as fast as the speed of Trust.

Trust is a function of two things: character and competence. Character includes your integrity, your motive as perceived by others, your intent as perceived by people. Competence includes your capabilities, your skills, your results, and your track record. Competence is situation: it depends on what the circumstance requires.
There are 13 behaviors that can help you build trust with anybody. All the 13 behaviors require a combination of both character and competence. The first five flow initially from character, the second five from competence and the last three from an almost equal mix of character and competence.
• Behavior # 1 – Talk Straight i.e. be honest, tell the truth. Let people know where you stand. Don’t manipulate people or distort facts and hence don’t leave a false impression.
• Behavior # 2 – Demonstrate Respect i.e. genuinely care for others. Show you care. Treat people as human beings, if they know you care, it brings out the best in them. Respect the dignity of every person and every role. Treat everyone with respect, especially those who can’t do anything for you. Each contribution needs to be honored and respected no matter how small a contribution is to an activity or an effort. Show kindness in the little things. Don’t fake caring.
• Behavior # 3 – Create Transparency i.e. Tell the truth in a way people can verify. Get real and genuine. Be open and authentic. Operate on the premise of “What you see is what you get. “ Don’t have hidden agendas, don’t hide information.
• Behavior # 4 – Right Wrongs i.e. More than simply apologizing, make restitution. Its doing what you can to correct the mistake and then a little more. Make things right when you are wrong. Apologize quickly. Demonstrate personal humility. Don’t cover things up. Don’t let pride get in the way of doing the right thing.
• Behavior # 5 – Show Loyalty i.e. give credit freely. Acknowledge the contributions of others. Speak about people as if they were present. Represent others who aren’t there to speak for themselves. Don’t bad mouth others behind their backs. Don’t disclose others private information.
• Behavior # 6 – Deliver Results i.e. Get the right thing done. Make things happen. Accomplish what you are hired to do. Don’t over promise and under deliver. Don’t make excuses for not delivering. Results give you instant credibility and instant trust. They give you clout. They clearly demonstrate that you add value that you can contribute, that you can perform.
• Behavior # 7 – Get Better i.e. continuously improve. Increase your capabilities. Be a constant learner. Develop feedback systems both formal and informal. Act on the feedback you receive. Than people for feedback. Don’t consider yourself above feedback. Don’t assume today’s knowledge and skills will be sufficient for tomorrow’s challenges.
• Behavior # 8 – Confront Reality i.e. take the tough issues head on. Its about sharing the bad news as well as the good, Don’t bury your head in the sand.
• Behavior # 9– Clarify Expectations i.e. Remember all conflict is a result of violated expectations. Clarifying expectations is all about creating shared vision and agreement about what is to be done up front. You can also call it behavior of prevention by disclosing and revealing expectations, discussing them, validating them, Renegotiating them if needed and possible. Never assume that expectations are clear or shared.
• Behavior # 10 – Practice Accountability i.e. Take responsibility for results. Be clear on how you will communicate how you are doing and how others are doing. Don’t avoid or shirk responsibility. Don’t blame others or point fingers when things go wrong.
• Behavior # 11 – Listen First i.e. Listen before you speak. Understand. Diagnose. Listen with your ears and your eyes and heart. Don’t presume you have the entire answers o all the questions.
• Behavior # 12 – Keep Commitments i.e. Say what you are going to do, then do what you say you are going to do. Make commitments carefully and keep them. Make keeping commitments the symbol of your honor. Don’t break confidences. Don’t attempt to PR your way out of commitment you have broken.
• Behavior # 13 – Extent Trust i.e. Demonstrate a propensity to trust. Extend trust abundantly to those who have earned your trust. Extend trust conditionally to those who are earning your trust. Learn how to appropriately extend trust to others based on the situation, risk, and credibility of the people involved. While Behavior 1 to 12 help you become a more trusted person, this behavior will help you become a more trusting leader. Not only des it build trust, it leverages trust. It creates reciprocity, when you trust people, other people tent to trust you in return.


Please feel free to add......

If you learn from defeat, you haven't really lost.

Return Stronger and more determined and see success unfold in front of you ..…..


Expectations are not always fulfilled in life. Unfulfilled expectations can become setbacks and losses if we don’t return stronger or determined. Unfulfilled expectations can become learning experience and character building milestone in life, if we learn from them and move on determined to be stronger.

Twice world footballer of the year, Lionel Messi, suffered from growth hormone deficiency at the tender age of 11. He is now the shortest player in the field, BUT, still the best given his determination and mental strength. Focusing towards, what he can do rather than what he can not.

Kaka (another star footballer) suffered a career-threatening, paralysis inducing spinal fracture at the age of 18 due to a swimming pool accident. Today (at 28), he is one of the most feared footballer.


Character is developed after defeat or unfulfilled expectations. We can walk out stronger or weaker; the choice is ours……


Share your stories of determination and strength……..

Motivation / Inspiration / Self Belief: Self Trust = Conviction and Confidence of “Yes I ...

Motivation / Inspiration / Self Belief: Self Trust = Conviction and Confidence of “Yes I ...: "Your attitude is either the lock, or the key to the door of success. The decision is yours....... Have you ever seen a child take the first..."

Self Trust = Conviction and Confidence of “Yes I Can”

Your attitude is either the lock, or the key to the door of success. The decision is yours.......

Have you ever seen a child take the first step. It is the prime example of self-trust. Never ever in his/her life has he/she walked, but there is this urge to walk, to take that first step. It takes the step and before he/she completes it, they are on the ground. What does a child do……………….He/she stands up again and try to take that step again, falls again, gets up again and try again, with in some time or days, the child has taken the first step. If there was no self trust or confidence after the first fall the child would have stayed on the floor for ever and ever, never to walk again. But no, every child is born with the self trust and they can walk.

Its all to do with our mindset, if we maintain a growth mindset, we will create a world view of learning and resilience the basic for great accomplishment.

From today:- Lets enter every problem with an attitude that I will overcome this problem and walk out stronger from this room.

Please share your stories of self trust ......................